CODEPENDENCY COUNSELING

You don’t have to feel stuck in confusion about your relationship anymore.

WHAT IS CODEPENDENCY?

“Codependence is the pain in adulthood that comes from being wounded in childhood, which leads to a high probability of relationship problems and addictive disorders in later life.” —The Bridge to Recovery

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU’RE IN A CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP?

  • Are you stuck in a relationship pattern that leaves you feeling helpless and confused as to whether to leave or stay in a relationship?
  • Are you staying in a relationship out of guilt or fear of being alone even though you are unhappy and unsatisfied?
  • Are you having difficulty letting go of a partner and obsessing over a relationship that has ended?

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It can feel painful and isolating to be caught in a relationship that isn’t working.

You may feel overwhelmed with mixed emotions for your partner. Your gut may tell you that this person isn’t the right fit for you, but you struggle with the fear that you might not find someone else or that you don’t deserve better.

Maybe you also believe that if you can just love your partner enough, they will change.

Perhaps you’ve come to the point where you feel like you’ve tried everything–from asking your partner to get help with an addiction or other life threatening illness to making threats to leave.

To make matters worse, your family and friends may be offering frustrating, unsolicited and conflicting advice about whether you should break it off or try to make it work.

With all the internal and external noise, you might be struggling to identify what you really want. This kind of relationship guidance is not the kind of help you need.

HOW MANY CHANCES DO YOU NEED TO GIVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP BEFORE YOU KNOW IT'S OVER?

Many individuals struggle with making a final decision to leave or remain in a relationship.

Some people feel stuck or trapped in a relationship where their needs are consistently unmet, despite pleading and begging their partners to work with them on the problems they are having as a couple. Other individuals are not sure when enough is enough.

Good communication in a relationship is essential to a healthy, functioning partnership. You don’t have to feel stuck in confusion about your relationship anymore.

With the guidance and support of a professional who is trained to understand the dynamics of codependent relationships, you can learn to identify the relationship you want to have.

CALL TODAY FOR A FREE CONSULTATION!

I offer free 15 minute phone consultations to all new clients. Get started and call the number below today. I look forward to hearing from you!

ADDICTIVE RELATIONSHIP CHECKLIST

(Copyright Sandra Says column 3-11-14 Safe Relationships Magazine)

The following checklist is a guide to help you identify any tendency towards relationship addiction or unhealthy relationships in general. If you answer ‘Yes’ to most of the following statements, you probably have a problem with relationship addiction.

 

  1. To be happy, you need a relationship. When you are not in a relationship, you feel depressed, and the cure for healing that depression usually involves meeting a new person.
  2. You often feel magnetically drawn to another person. You act on this feeling even when you suspect the person may not be good for you.
  3. You often try to change another person to meet your ideal.
  4. Even when you know a relationship isn’t good for you, you find it difficult to break it off.
  5. When you consider breaking a relationship, you worry about what will happen to the other person without you.
  6. After a break-up, you immediately start looking for a new relationship in order to avoid being alone.
  7. You are often involved with someone unavailable who lives far away, is married, is involved with someone else, or is emotionally distant.
  8. A kind, available person probably seems boring to you, and even if he/she likes you, you will probably reject him/her.
  9. Even though you may demonstrate independence in other areas, you are fearful of independence within a love relationship.
  10. You find it hard to say no to the person with whom you are involved.
  11. You do not really believe you deserve a good relationship.
  12. Your self-doubt causes you to be jealous and possessive in an effort to maintain control.
  13. Sexually, you are more concerned with pleasing your partner than pleasing yourself.
  14. You feel as if you are unable to stop seeing a certain person even though you know that continuing the relationship is destructive to you.
  15. Memories of a relationship continue to control your thoughts for months or even years after it has ended.
  16. Even though you know the relationship is bad for you (and perhaps others have told you this), you take no effective steps to end it.
  17. You give yourself reasons for staying in the relationship that are not really accurate or that are not strong enough to counteract the harmful aspects of the relationship.
  18. When you think about ending the relationship, you feel terrible anxiety and fear, which make you cling to it even more.
  19. When you take steps to end the relationship, you suffer painful withdrawal symptoms, including physical discomfort that is only relieved by reestablishing contact.

A TALENTED AND RESPECTED THERAPIST...

“Lisa is a talented and respected therapist among her colleagues. Her skills and engaging style prepare teens for college with reassuring support, information, and confidence.”

- Helen Lemm LCSW | Psychotherapist Private Practice

A STRONG ADVOCATE FOR HER CLIENTS...

“I enjoy collaborating with Ms. Knudson. She is a strong advocate for her clients, and is talented in working with adolescents and young adults who are navigating transitions."

- Nakia Scott, M.D., ABIHM | Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist | Diplomat of the American Board of Integrative and Holistic Medicine

Lisa Knudson Psychotherapy | 30 Cumberland Avenue, Suite 201, Asheville, North Carolina 28801

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